Where to Find Femboys
October 23, 2025
Why?
If you are interesting in meeting a like-minded community, dating a femboy, becoming besties with a femboy, or are simply curious about femboy culture, this article is perfect for you!
What is a Femboy?
Femboys are a subset of the male gender (or masculine learning identity) that tends to take part in more feminine expressions. A key difference between femboys and transgender women/ transfeminine people is that femboys still identity on the male spectrum considering the sex binary, however have interests or dress in a way that is socially deemed as feminine, especially when considering a Western perspective. Below are examples of different ways to dress up as a femboy:
However, it is important to note that there can be a lot of crossover between Femboy and Transfem fashion, especially when considering feminine clothing many socially transitioning outfits a transfem girlie would pursue. This includes: High socks, large hoodies, tiny skirts or shorts, due to these typically reducing more traditionally masculine features. However a main difference often includes shorter hair, a love for cat ears, energy drinks (especially monster), and maid attire.
Top places to find femboys:
Grindr
Pros:
Great if you would like to hookup or get into a relationship with a femboy in your area.
Easy to use as a dating app.
Cons:
A dating app so it can be expected there would be some interesting individuals on there!
Not great if you don't want to date/have sex with the femboy.
Can be an intimidating space, especially for new femboys.
Lack of straight femboys.
Pride Events
Pros:
Most likely to meet femboys who are out to the public and confident in their identity.
Able to meet lots of new people at one time.
Cons:
You will have to go outside to interact with people. (NOT ONLINE.)
Large scale events depending on the city which can be scary.
If you are not a publicly out femboy this could cause some difficulties.
Gay Bars/Clubs
Pros:
Able to be drunk or drinking in general while meeting new femboys. : 3
Cons:
Harder to meet people who are specifically femboys, as gay bars and clubs would have more diverse and random groups depending on the day.
Lots of Gay Bars/Clubs have been taken over by straight men.
Pros:
Big communities that exist online!
Diverse population - people from all over the world that are able to come and gather together.
Most femboys post photos of themselves, which can be good inspiration if you are seeking to also become a femboy.
Direct messaging online is relatively easy and many people are open to conversation.
Cons:
Meeting up in person can be a bit more difficult to organise and there is a possibility of being unsafe.
Discord
Pros:
Many servers exist that contain femboys or that are femboy focused.
A very popular form of social media, likely to be more active.
Cons:
More likely to contain people that are pretending to be femboys due to the extra layer of anonymity on discord.
You may be scammed into giving a "femboy" discord nitro or skins from their favourite game.
Omegle
Pros:
Famous Youtube femboys often made their start from Omeagle videos, which has likely inspired others to do the same.
Some femboys might trick you into thinking they are a girl which could be a bit funny.
Cons:
Paul Litherland would not approve of this. (You have the potential of getting scammed.)
You may have to see 10,000 penises before meeting a genuine femboy.
Omegle also doesn't technically exist properly anymore due to Paul.
Time travelling back to 2020 TikTok
Pros:
Lots of femboys starting popping up due to the mask wearing phenomena as many femboys could hide masculine features - easier to find.
Cons:
Time travel might be a little difficult and challenging but as a computer science student you got this! uwu !
Start using Japanese Emoticons and Hope for the Best
Pros:
If you get a Japanese keyboard it should be relatively easy to implement into daily texting.
Cutesey and very fun looking!
Cons:
Very much luck based and the possibility of being ostracised by your friends and family if you use it with them.